If you've ever been a waiter or waitress, you learned how to carry stuff on a tray. The trick to not dumping the entire thing on the floor is to focus on your destination - not your feet, or the stuff on the tray, or people around you.
As I was driving back from Flint this morning, I realized that the same trick for not spilling a tray of food onto innocent people is valuable for other things in life as well. Focusing on your goals keeps you from dropping all of the things you take with you en route. How else can you explain the drive and success rates of parents who return to school while holding down a full-time job and raising a family?
Focusing on the stuff on your tray, however, means that you drop things. Or, that you whine about how much you have to carry. The end result is the same: you don't get where you're going, and you aren't as efficient, effective or fun to work with as those people who sail through the room, their trays loaded with stuff, joking and smiling and generally making life a better place to be.
That's what I want to do this year. I know it might be a little late for new year's resolutions, but I'm going to make this one anyway.